* for those who haven’t done this in a seminar, we have sheets you can use for this exercise. Send an email if you would like.
Consider your life currently and list
A) Your ROCKS: the ‘REALLY IMPORTANT’ things – the things you ‘couldn’t/wouldn’t want to live life without’. These are usually the ‘intangibles’ – elicit ‘emotion’, passion/love, give ‘meaning’ to your life – e.g family/partner relationships, health, work purpose, a meaningful contribution etc
B) Your PEBBLES: the ‘NICE’ things – the things you LIKE/Would Like, but ‘could live without if need be’. These are often more ‘material’ things – e.g new car, new kitchen, holiday, job promotion, sending kids to the ‘best’ school etc.
C) Your SAND: the ‘SMALL/IRRITATING’ things – the everyday, ‘time-consuming’ things you either ‘don’t enjoy’, or do not contribute directly to you achieving the really important things in your life E.g grocery shopping, mowing the lawn, work travel, cooking etc (* if you like these, don’t list them here!)
Great. Now understand that most people who have a problem with Life Balance, spend so much time filling their life with Pebbles & Sand that their is no time left for their Rocks – the result…stress, lack of fulfillment, unhappiness.
Just the process of writing out your Rock, Pebble, Sand list usually alerts us to a number of things we are doing that is preventing us from achieving the most important things in our lives. E.g. working longer hours (thereby having less hours with loved ones/increasing stress) in order to make more $/get promotion so you can afford a nice holiday (to spend more time with loved ones/reduce stress!!!).
Pick one & do something today to rectify it (or put a note in your diary today if it can’t be done today).
*** Keep Your Lists: We will take you through a 6 Step process to creating better Life / Work Life Balance in future tips.
Speaking of Sand: Author Unknown:
A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. In a specific point of the journey, they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one, who got slapped, was hurt, but without anything to say, he wrote in the sand: “TODAY, MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE”. They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who got slapped and hurt started drowning, and the other friend saved him. When he recovered from the fright, he wrote on a stone: “TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE”. The friend who saved and slapped his best friend, asked him, “Why, after I hurt you, you wrote in the sand, and now you write on a stone?” The other friend, smiling, replied: “When a friend hurts us, we should write it down in the sand, where the winds of forgiveness get in charge of erasing it away, and when something great happens, we should engrave it in the stone of the memory of the heart, where no wind can erase it” Learn to write in the sand.