Of course, doing things for others is the ultimate, but we also need to ‘create clear boundaries’ for ourselves. The natural human desire is to say ‘YES’ – especially today, when we are often made to feel guilty for not doing this or not doing (not spending enough time with the kids, not staying back late at work etc etc). If we really want work-life balance though, we need to be strong & value every second of our day.
1. Think of 1,2 or 3 things that are/or will be requests or demands on your time, that you feel, ‘at the end of the day, are not really that super-important’. Practice saying ‘NO’ to these requests, and put that time towards doing something you really want to do for yourself.
2. When someone catches you by surprise with a request, or is putting pressure on you to say ‘yes’ immediately – maybe just say, “I don’t know yet, I would like to, but I will have to see”. This gives you a bit of space to weigh up the importance of their demand versus your own & allows you the time to decide if it’s fine to do or whether it’s going to really add to your stress.
3. Try not to see these things as simply saying NO to someone or something else – think of it as honouring your own health & wellbeing and saying a big YES to your own happiness first (the basis of best helping others).
It’s a Good LAUGH Saying “No” !!!
A derelict bum on the street asks a man for two dollars.
The man asked, “Will you buy booze?”
The bum says, “NO”
The man asked, “Will you gamble it away?”
The bum says,”NO”
Then the man asked, “If I give you two dollars, will you come home with me so my wife can see what happens to a man who doesn’t drink or gamble?”